Things Everyone Must Know Before Divorce Will Change Life: Healthy Tips. 2020

There are things that we need to know before making any decisions in life. This article is mainly going to be about divorce; probably it seems to be strange for many people and they don't even want to hear, it's every serious topic that everyone must thoughtfully consider. The reason I'm focusing on the negative aspect of divorce is because so many people divorce their spouses based on their present feelings. I'm not saying that people shouldn't consider divorce, but what I'm trying to explain is that considering our decision will change our life. People today make life and particularly relationship harder than it's.

People make decisions based on comparisons and feelings, so to avoid these we need to increase self-awareness. We don't have to make decisions about life what we feel is right but what we know is right. When we are quite young, we choose to have a partner then we fall truly in love with one another. And we think of getting married and set goals together, everything is perfect before marriage. But why do things change when we are married to the person that we used to love?

So, if you think your problems are serious and important and you are constantly thinking about separation, try to ask some questions before things get serious.

Your positive answer to these questions doesn't mean that the decision to separate is a definite one. as long as you can work on the relationship, it's better to be hesitant about this decision and not implement it immediately. But if you don't feel comfortable with the relationship at all and find your issues very serious and important, it's a good idea to assess your position by answering these questions.

1. Do you feel that your partner isn't doing anything right to maintain this relationship and that your efforts are one-sided and useless?

I think asking this question will help anyone who is going through unreasonable issues and keep thinking that divorce is the only solution. You really need to know the answer and don't try to make an answer to what you feel would be right, rather you have to think about the actual problems.

2. Is everything involved in this discussion? I mean exactly everything, for example, is your method of protesting against various issues always accompanied by conflict and tension?

Make sure that you and your partner know what is happening. You may solve the issues by having some clear discussions.

3. Tired of fighting, stress, and conflict?  Is your energy for work and daily chores low because your energy is constantly declining? 

To be honest a lot of useless problems originate from our own mind.

4. Has your love and affection been replaced by grumbling, resentment, and feelings of unhappiness?

5. Aren't there any commonalities left and do you have a few common interests that can't be enough motivation to continue and maintain a relationship?

6. Is sex disgusting, scary and upsetting for you?

7. Are you considering a replacement relationship to make up for your shortcomings?  Are you in another parallel relationship and do you feel bad about it?

8. Do you have a similar reaction to people with passive aggression disorder and always try to do things that are against the interests, desires, and needs of the other party?
9. Do you think separation is a way to get back to a normal, better life? 

This is one of the main questions that need to be asked before separation. It will help us to consider whether or not our life will get better after being alone.
10. Do you feel that the problems are more difficult and complicated than you can solve?


11. Can't you talk about problems and keep everything to yourself because he/she has closed the way to communication?  Are you afraid of talking and expressing feelings, needs, and problems?

12. Is your sex-limited, without motivation and heart desire, out of compulsion, fear, and anxiety?  Does he/ she run away from the relationship and have no desire to communicate and restrict you?

Your answer to many of these questions might be yes, but that doesn't always mean the end of the relationship, and it doesn't necessarily mean separation.  Your positive response, of course, is a dangerous one. You need to be aware that this relationship is difficult and requires more effort and care.  Also, in cases where addiction, violence, fundamental differences in intellectual, class, and cultural beliefs exist, a positive answer to these questions, along with other issues, can be a way to make a final decision.

Now is the time to decide whether or not you can continue to commit to this relationship, or whether you need to move on the next step. Staying in an unhealthy relationship isn't a good option for you and your partner, so think of a way to solve the problem. Even if your problem is ultimately solved by separation alone, this is something you should finally do.